Month: August 2020

❝ Cause there’s a time when you’re right, and you know you must fight. Who’s laughing, baby, don’t you know? ❞

— Michael Jackson

Here’s a perfect recipe to create a monster

Recently, there’s been a huge controversy going around social media, which is a total usual thing. A well-known TV host and celebrity – no need to mention the name – is facing a huge shift in how people are perceiving him/her. On social media, it’s sometimes hard to predict what’s going to happen and what’s going to be the next big deal. The only thing that you can easily predict, if and only if you let your consciousness attend the scene, the way people look at you and represent you is not going to be constant. A dramatic change is always an easy prediction. Now, I’m not defending the celebrity or trying to discuss what is going on with that person. I’ve only come to realize how easy it is for people to take you from the top of a mountain and easily drag you onto the ground. By then, you get to see yourself bleeding with no one to stand by your side. Yes, it’s that absurdly simple. Then, we start making up stories, trying to find any questionable gaps that will help us prove that you’re not the person we anticipated. The story we already wrote in our minds contradicts who you really are, or the way I put it, the things that you chose for us to see are not enough, so we will start seeking the things you decided to hide regardlessly of the reasons that we don’t care about. Now, we all keep a few things to ourselves. Sometimes for reasons, and sometimes we just don’t know why. However, this situation does not apply for any public figure. At the end of the day, you chose to become famous not us. So, face the waves of hate and the justified bullying. Live with it. You are a monster. We get to mock you and suddenly take everything away from you because we gave it to you in the first place.

Master the art of judging

We all have been there. Some of us might still stuck in that place where you judge everything subconsciously. You start your day by judging your family members, friends, people on the street, people on social media, people you don’t even know but you don’t like them from the first sight, people who you love because you can’t continue loving them if they’re not one hundred percent the way you like, and sometimes you might be judging yourself constantly until you drive yourself crazy. Judging is in the air. Why does he drink sweet coffee? Why is he fat? Why is he that fit? Why he spends more than one hour at the gym everyday? Isn’t that boring? Why is that person wearing something that I won’t wear myself? Why doesn’t he do all the things that I like doing? Why people are different than me? Why they refuse to become a copy of me? Because I’m always right, or at least I know what is right even though I’m not doing it, but still, they should do this thing.

Even judging itself has reasonings. You cannot complain about this. If you did, you would get yourself in a problem with a conversation that eventually will end up with a big loser, which is you. Threads on social media are made for multiple reasons. One of them is to start whining and complaining. Consequently you’re attaining your judging desires between the lines of your context without you knowing, or being fully aware of your situation.

Remember… It’s so easy to post

With freedom of speech comes a few problems. Adding that it’s easy and fast to post any thought in your mind. No turning back. I just said it. I pressed tweet/post. It’s what it is.

The easiest path to take us out of this dilemma is to accept that while I’m free to express myself, others are equally free to say what they want to express even the most peculiar things and beliefs. It’s simple, but I learned that people on social media don’t like to make things simple. They just want to start a fight out of any frivolous case. Simplicity is not what people want anymore. We only need to accept this notion. Staying calm is simple. Remaining silent about something that you truly don’t care about is simple. However, people on social media subconsciously adapted to transfer everything that is absolutely simple into chaos. Do something stupid in a public place and get posted on social media. Here you go. New conversations and fights on social media on who’s right and who’s wrong. If we processed this for a moment, we would come to conclude that because it’s very easy and simple to post and tweet. If that simple problem happened today, you’d need to share your thoughts about it instantly. You don’t have to wait. We’ve been programmed to do things fast. You think about it for a second, no need for more processing. Just post it.

Your past is nothing but a weapon to us

Such a pity that some people on these networks can dig into your past and find flaws to attack you with. Ignoring the fact that they too have flaws and a past that is absolutely not perfect. We collectively make mistakes. As long as you’re famous, or a social media public figure, it becomes harder to ignore your past. It’s an easy tool for us to use. Finding it as a precious and a perfect opportunity that helps us to defeat you.

A perfect battle zone

We’ve been talking about famous people on social media. What about us? We are not famous, aren’t we? We are still included in that chaos. Sometimes you go on social media and you read the comments on a random post. You find non-stopping replies about a matter that is irrelevant to the post. Unconsciously, people are driving themselves crazy by grabbing attention. This attention comes when you find a stupid comment, or sometimes it’s not stupid but you feel personally attacked, so you start giving that person an attention. We are not aware that sometimes we feel attacked when we read people’s comments. This creates the battle. Showing off the knowledge, attacking each other, cursing each other, and embracing the moments when we turn into someone that isn’t even who we really are. I know it sounds weird, but I still believe that lots of people aren’t one hundred percent conscious of what they are saying or writing on social media. Not fully present while they are showing off their mean words that are sometimes covered in nice ones. What I really learned from social media is that it’s not always necessary to use bad words to be mean to someone. You can still be rude with your elegance.